Conflict in a relationship: Anyone who has been in a romantic relationship understands that conflicts and fights are unavoidable. When two people spend a lot of time together, with their lives knotted, they disagree with each other from time to time. Such disagreements can be giant or small. The fact that you fight with your partner does not mean that there is trouble in your relationship. When managed properly, fighting can improve your relationship.
If you never oppose and never talk about your problems with your partner then you will never be able to solve them. By dealing with conflicts constructively, you can acquire a better understanding of your partner and reach a solution that works for both of you. Here on this topic, we are sharing a few points with you to handle conflict in a relationship constructively.
How to handle conflict in a relationship:
Sometimes people do not just come out and tell directly what is bothering them, and instead, choose more indirect ways of expressing their displeasure. Partners may pout without addressing an issue. Partners may also simply bypass discussing a problem by quickly switching topics when the issue comes up or by being secretive. Such ways of expressing anger are not productive, because they do not give the other person who is the target of the behaviors a clear idea of how to react. They understand their partner is irritated, but the lack of openness leaves them without direction about what they can do to solve the problem.
Never use the word always or never
When you are handling a problem, you should avoid making stereotypes about your partner. Statements like “You are always busy on your phone” are likely to make your partner defensive. Instead of initiating a discussion about how your partner could be more valuable, this strategy is likely to lead your partner to start developing counterexamples of all the times they were, in fact, valuable. You should not put your partner on the defensive.
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Pick your battles
If you want to have a productive discussion, you need to stick to one issue at a time. Unhappy couples are likely to drag numerous topics into one discussion. When you want to solve personal issues, this is probably not the approach you take with you. The more complaints you present, the less likely it is that any problem will get fully discussed and resolved.
Listen to your partner
It can be frustrating to feel like your partner is not giving you attention. When you assume that you know what they are thinking, you are not giving them a chance to represent themselves. Even if you are confident that you understand where your partner is coming from or know what they will say, you could still be wrong, and your partner will feel like you are not listening. So, it is necessary to listen to your partner.
Know when it is time for a break
If you notice yourself falling into negative patterns and find that either you or your partner are not following the tips above, take some time out from your argument. Even a short break for a few deep breaths is enough to calm your temper.