How to find a partner?

How to find a partner: Finding the right partner is a whole lot of hard work. There are so many moving parts to a relationship trust, openness, communication, intimacy, etc. that it may feel like there is no hope in discovering a partner that you can spend your life with. 

Choosing a wife or a husband is hard because we go about it the wrong way. We look outward to the world and stay optimistic we can find someone to complete us, rather than looking inward at ourselves and making ourselves whole first. The key to choosing a life partner is working on the one you have with yourself. Apart from this, there are many ways in which you can find a partner. So, without any delay, let us discuss them one by one.

How to find a partner:

Look into the past

First, we need to look to the past. Our previous partner choices will surely have been based on the mental presuppositions that we have gained over the years, from the very start. Now could be the time to study those ideas carefully and lay some aside.

Ask yourself if you are ready

Even if we desire a relationship, oftentimes we are not ready. It is highly tempting to satisfy the fresh nightmare of a recent relationship ending- by partnering again. But as per the studies, breakups can create the same kind of reaction that comes with drug withdrawal. In other words, you are incapable of making good choices about your next love until you are well clear, and have deeply learned the lessons, of your previous one.

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Focus on relationship

Do not seek a person, instead seek a partnership. Because what matters is the smaller who you pair with as the connection that results from that pairing. So if you define your partner by specifications such as height, weight, or earnings, your search habits will be misguided. You may well find a match, but ultimately it may not be the match that produces the happiness you want. 

Look for emotional responsiveness

Is your partner willing and able to help you when you are in emotional need? Are you ready to return the favor? If not, it is unwise to stay. Ironically, though, we frequently do. A lack of this kind of responsiveness is often what keeps us attached to a toxic relationship, hoping for a happy ending. If you have ever hung in where your emotional needs were largely not met then let this be the moment when you promise never to make that mistake again.