Dealing with shyness: If you are a shy person, then you might know the feeling of being self-conscious and uncomfortable in most social situations.
Many times as a shy person you might have heard about the advice,
- Just say hello and smile.
- Just go and talk to them. No one is going to bite you.
- You are overanalyzing the situation.
All such advice comes from people who hardly have any experience with shyness. You are always doubtful about if the other is interested in talking to you, during the conversation, shyness makes you worry about what the other person is thinking about you. (Dealing with shyness)
Shyness does not disappear on its own, but we are sharing a few strategies below which may make you feel more comfortable in a social gathering.
Dealing with shyness:
Decide whether it’s shyness or something else
Many people think of shyness, introversion, and social anxiety are the same thing. So, first, understand the difference between them. Some shy people have social anxiety disorder and are introverts. But on the other hand, social anxiety is a mental health condition and shyness is not.
Social anxiety involves a constant fear of rejection, criticism, and disapproval from others. This fear might become overwhelming to such an extent that you start avoiding social gatherings entirely. On the other hand, it is easy for shy people to open up with people after a few meetings.
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Analyze your strengths
Instead of seeing shyness as your weakness, start focusing on the plus point of being shy. You could be a great listener, empathetic, and sensitive, which a friend or a family may need. Recognizing the areas where your shyness can shine and provide a boost to your self-confidence which in turn would diminish the feelings of insecurity and self-doubts.
Determine your goals
The very first thing you are supposed to do is, note down what exactly your goals are and how shyness is affecting you to achieve that goal.
For example: if you are looking for a stable relationship but at the same time, you are too shy to talk to new people. In such a case, your first step should be to focus on starting a simple conversation rather than jumping into the relationship. Dividing your goals into smaller ones would be of great help.
Many people face social interactions behind a mask of confidence. Showing boldness that you don’t really feel within may leave you more anxious than everyone can see through.
It is okay to admit that you are nervous. People might even appreciate the honesty and effort that you are putting in. Their positive reaction will boost your confidence eventually.
Involve in conversations more mindfully
If you’re shy, casual conversations can be hard for you. Even though when you have a lot to say, constant worrying about how others may perceive you might stop you from having a conversation. You might end up asking a lot of questions or nodding down so that you don’t have to put information in the conversation.
So, instead of wondering what to say, try to figure out what you want to say and use your active listening skills to focus on the flow of the conversation.
While shyness isn’t always something to be worried about, it may stop you from building close connections with others and leave you lonely when you desire closeness. If your shyness makes it difficult to build close relationships. You should consider connecting with a therapist who can help you more in accepting yourself more and getting away from shyness.