How to deal with jealousy?

How to deal with jealousy: Jealousy is not necessarily harmful emotion, but there are ways to drive your jealousy more constructively. If you get jealous in romantic relationships, you are not alone. Jealousy is a genuine emotion that many people experience at some point of time in life. As per the research, jealousy is not naturally a bad thing.

Wherever your jealousy arises from or whom you feel it toward, healing is possible in every case. How do you control jealousy? There are several ways to deal with jealousy, and some are mentioned below.

How to deal with jealousy:

Whether you feel jealous in romantic relationships, friendships, or other situations, here are some tips on how to control your jealousy healthily.

Recognize your insecurities

Be real with yourself about what your insecurities are, where they come from, what you do to keep them alive, and what you could potentially start doing to change them into secure bases of existence. To do this, you can maintain a journal, start meditating or speak to a therapist. A mental health professional may help you identify the root cause of your jealousy and how to overcome it.

Speak openly with your partner

Consider talking with your partner about your experience. Opening up about your feelings can allow them to understand where you are coming from and modify their behaviors to help you feel more secure in your relationship.

Also Read: How to cultivate self-love?

Talk about it with people

To realize that you are not alone, ask other people about how they feel when they are jealous and how they deal with it. 

Let go judgment

Jealousy is generally called bad, but it is not always a negative feeling. Try to stop judging jealousy as a “bad” or “wrong” way to feel because it is neither. Jealousy is nothing but a message about the unhealed parts of ourselves. The defensive behaviors we display to shield us from feeling jealous are usually what feels bad. But the feeling itself is useful for us to get to know ourselves sufficiently.

Learn more about jealousy

Jealousy almost always has a deep-rooted emotion behind it. It can be an expression of fear: that we’re not enough, appealing, or interesting, that we would not be chosen, or that other people or things are more significant to someone than we are.

List of some potential sources of jealousy:

• a partner’s ongoing connections with their exes
• not trusting your 
• wishing you had what someone else has, it can be a career, friendship
• a learned emotional pattern from being raised in an environment with jealousy
• conscious or unconscious attachments to competition
• a projection of how we feel or think about ourselves
• a lack of security in ourselves
• losing one or both parents (from death, divorce, or physical, or psychological)

While jealousy is often something inner that we need to work on, that’s not always the case. Sometimes people want us to be jealous of them because it gives them a false sense of peak about their own lives. This is something people may or may not be conscious of.

Either way, learning more about yourself can help you pleasingly understand where your feelings of jealousy come from and how, based on your personal needs, you can deal with them.